Hands up all those ladies (and some men) out there who love nothing more than to curl up and watch the latest romantic chick flick. Probably something Nicholas Sparks managed to tap out over a weekend, based on the amount of books he seems to produce. I'll admit I'm guilty of that. Several of my all time favourite girly romance movies are by Mr Sparks. (Side note: Either his wife is the luckiest woman on earth or she reads them and thinks "Mr Romance My Arse...He never does this shit for me")
However, we continue to watch these movies and cling onto the slowly dying desire to find our happily ever after. The couple that love each other for a life time only to die in one another's arms is how we quintessentially envision true love should be. When in reality most wives secretly spend their nights plotting how to choke their husbands in their sleep. I mean of course there are a select number of people out there who have the model relationship and have found their happy ending. But it is becoming clear that they are the exception, not the norm.
Several times I've thought this is it, I've found the one. I'm not talking about some guy I've dated a few times, I'm talking about in committed relationships and then "Poof" its gone. Sometimes you will meet someone and think, Wow this one has potential for something to grow, and then "Poof" its gone. Always with the poofing and the going.
I know in the past I've dated the wrong men or got into relationships for the wrong reasons. However after an epiphany of my own mistakes I made a conscious effort to rectify this. I've dated the bad boys, the nice guys, the family man, the guy you'd take home to meet your mum, the guy you'd keep away from your dad. I've dated them all and the one thing that is a reoccurring theme is that none of them really know what they want!
They make out like they are ready for a relationship and then they freak out and can't do it. Or they take the ultimate out and cheat rather than work on the relationship. Or they are honest and say they don't want anything serious, I'm not opposed to Friends With Benefits. So you have the FWB type relationship. Then they decide they want more, then they don't, then they do and you think you could have more with them, then they decide they don't again. All this confusion and inability to make a damn decision and commit to something is mind numbingly exhausting. All the "I thought I was ready for something but I guess I'm not."
HEY Do the world a favour, unless you really are 100% sure you are ready for a relationship don't attempt to get into one. Stop Fucking People Around...Men And Woman! You are playing with peoples lives and emotions. Stop being so selfish and start thinking of others and how your actions affect them. Be a better Human.
Seriously people, the fate of humanity rests on your ability to Get Your Shit Together!
Christian Grey said he's 50 shades of fucked up but even he manages to get his shit together in the end.
So maybe there is hope after all. Maybe there is a happy ending even if its not the most conventional one we had planned. But it all depends on us. We need to sort ourselves out so we can be the best possible version of ourselves to offer to another person. So we can give all of ourselves to someone. Its up to us. You need to fix it. You need to fix you so that you stop breaking others.
Lets all work on it.....
Until Next Time xo
